At that moment, it felt like i was still living in the 50s.. 70s.. That people would still succumb to family pressure in choosing their suitor, and it's even weird since the guy's family is the modern type and been living in KL all this while. Now back in the car, i was listening to the radio with her. Her eyes are still red as she was talking to the guy over the phone. She was determined to know where did they go wrong or any mistakes from her side. I overheard the conversation a bit.. but i preferred to listen to the radio.. as i wanted her to tell me about the conversation with both side in mind. Tears started flowing down her eyes.. slowly but surely and i heard "Syukurlah bukan sebab yang biasa.." my mind was a bit confused. "What did he say?" asked myself at that moment.
She hung up the phone and started explaining to me.. that the guy was introduced to the girl (now the wife) by the family and he was confused on to what to do. So he decided to let his faith be his guide and bended down in prayers, with the Istikharah prayer in The God Almighty's willing to guide him in making his choice. And that in his dream.. he saw the the girl he married was the one who appeared in a better manner or positive presentation or as the chosen one (i don't know because my friend didn't explain much) and thus led him to make the decision he made.
Over the radio.. i could listen the song by Jason Mraz whispering slowly, threading between our conversation. And came the part when he(Jason Mraz) sang "Before the cool done run out, I'll be giving it my bestest. Nothing's going to stop me but divine intervention......"from the song 'I'm Yours'. "Nothing's gonna stop you but divine intervention huh?" I asked myself. "Well.. in front of my nose now I can see a 'divine intervention' at work." i added in my heart. I could do nothing to comfort my friend who was shocked in awe, perhaps in some way felt offended that God worked in favor of others than her. I could see "Am i that bad to not deserve him?" written all over her face. For her, it might feel something like a 5 years old whose friend said "Alif Lam Lam Ha, sape amik berdosa" while writing it on her toy. And when the kid tried to take back his toy, the friend would say "A'aa.. tak tahu.. kalau amik berdosa!".
I dropped her off at her house and all i could say to comfort her was "Nasha, it wasn't meant to be.. don't linger on it for too long.. There might be something good out of this. He works in ways that our small mind could never comprehend". I drove back and cant help but ponder about the issue. As i was just surfing the net.. i found this little discussion:-
"Sebenarnya amal ibadah yang mengandungi unsur-unsur tilikan dan bergantung kepada mimpi semata-mata bukanlah daripada ajaran Islam. Malah Nabi s.a.w. tidak pernah mengajar umatnya agar mencerap petunjuk Allah menerusi mimpi. Fenomena menilik nasib atau jodoh melalui mimpi di kalangan masyarakat kita, lebih-lebih lagi bagi sesetengah wanita perlu diperbetulkan semula. Amalan ini dikhuatiri boleh menyebabkan berlakunya dosa syirik kepada Allah s.w.t.
Hal ini kerana manusia bukanlah tuhan yang boleh meramal apa yang berlaku. Perbuatan meramal atau menilik mimpi adalah amalan dan budaya jahiliah yang sangat ditegah oleh Islam. Firman Allah s.w.t. yang bermaksud:
Wahai orang yang beriman, bahawa sesungguhnya arak dan judi dan pemujaan berhala dan mengundi nasib adalah semata-mata amalan kotor daripada perbuatan syaitan. Oleh itu hendaklah kamu menjauhinya supaya kamu berjaya. (Al-Maidah: 90)
Perlu dijelaskan di sini bahawa tidak semua mimpi manusia itu benar. Mimpi manusia biasa pada kebiasaannya adalah mainan tidur yang berpunca daripada pengaruh iblis dan syaitan yang datang mengganggu.
Kita tidak boleh menyamakan antara mimpi manusia biasa dengan mimpi para nabi dan rasul-rasul. Mimpi bagi nabi dan para rasul adalah wahyu dari Allah Taala. Kisah Nabi Ibrahim a.s. sebagai contoh, telah diperintah oleh Allah untuk menyembelih anaknya, Ismail a.s. yang datang melalui mimpi baginda. Allah s.w.t. berfirman yang bermaksud:
Maka apabila anak itu sampai (kepada peringkat umur yang membolehkan dia) berusaha bersama-sama dengannya, Nabi Ibrahim berkata: Wahai anak kesayanganku, sesungguhnya aku melihat dalam mimpi, bahawa aku akan menyembelihmu, maka fikirkanlah apa pendapatmu? Anaknya menjawab: Wahai bapaku, jalankanlah apa yang diperintahkan kepadamu, Insya-Allah ayah akan mendapatiku daripada orang-orang yang sabar. (Al-Soffat: 102)
Kesimpulannya mimpi kita itu tidak mengandungi kebenaran mutlak. Kemungkinan kebenaran yang terlihat itu lebih berdasarkan kepada kebetulan sahaja atau unsur-unsur daripada mainan syaitan yang bertujuan untuk menyesatkan manusia. Itulah sebabnya, jangan menyandarkan segala keputusan kepada mimpi. Sebaliknya berfikirlah dengan lebih rasional"
(Taken from http://www.pengantin.com.my/v1/index.php?option=com_content&task=view&id=12)
*edit (The Malay excerpt explains that in Islam, forecasting your future via dreams is not taught or promoted. It could be said that you're putting your faith on something other than God (Syirik) as dreams are just mind-play and sometimes are works of the devil. One cannot compare one's dreams to the prophets' and we shouldn't make decisions over it, instead, think about it rationally.)
So there we go.. The so called 'divine intervention' that my friend had an experience with. As for me.. regardless of whether it's wrong or right, i still think things happen for a reason. Just get over it and move on. No point in lingering on the same thing for too long. Life goes on.. But i don't know about you guys.. One thing for sure, I would be laughing my ass off if somebody were to say that "You don't deserve me because I had a dream about it". Man.. Can't you take responsibility for your own choices?